My affair with NLP

Have you ever been so passionate about something that you become addicted to it at the first sight?

It happened to me with NLP. I call it “the affair” of my life!

When I started my first job, it became clear for me that for me the passion for the human mind and human connection is the lesson of my soul. I wanted to know it all, beyond the judgemental “why”. I wanted to understand the “how”, to uncover the mystery of this miracle called human mind, to encompass all that is capable of and what chemistry and physics catalyzes it. I was curious to know whether there is are processes or procedures embedded into the infinite human data lake that shapes and forges the human identity. It was a lot about “who am I” and “who are we” so I zoomed in the study field of human behavior and psychology.

On my development journey, I read a lot, and practiced a lot, yet I was missing a “something” pretty hard to name. Luckily, I found NLP (neuro-linguistic programing), and I realized that I found precisely what I was missing. As soon as I discovered it, I simply fell in love. The idea behind NLP is studying and modeling the behavior of exceptional people, translate that in processes and procedures that can be easily adopted and reproduced by anyone. It helps people to acquire in an accelerated way new skills, to develop and integrate new behaviors, to remove limitations or to re-hierarchize their value systems. All of it on a very very fast speed. Its systems shapes, develops and uses language to produce a major shift in one’s consciousness and from there all the way down to the behaviour. It is all proceduralized. You can imagine that for the engineer in me, this was like drinking from the graal of knowledge around my human mind. Unlike the traditional psychotherapy that looks way back in the past to help one understand the cause of the blockages allowing healing to install, the NLP adjusts and creates strategies and models tested and proved that work.

NLP Communication Model

My favorite metaphor to describe the difference between the psychotherapy and NLP/coaching is that the therapist might be considered an archeologist digging deeper to uncover the past while the NLP master/coach can be viewed as an architect, dream designer, life engineer that translates wishes into plans and behaviors, creating paths to solutions at very fast peace.

I’ll go back for a while to my first connection with NLP. The first few modules fascinated me. I hardly believed that was even real. I saw parts of me I wasn’t even aware they exists. And when I say I saw, that’s exactly what happened. I was reading and unfolding secrets of how brain works, how we create memories, how we understand life and other people through our senses. It was becoming clearer for me the importance of communication and language. I found a completely new universe, and I identified easily myself in. It got me in a carrousel, awakening the same senses of adventure that adrenaline gives one when riding the highest and cumbersome rollercoaster. That made me just not to want or be able to stop.

It was August 2014… last day of the month. I was preparing already for the upcoming exam of graduation for NLP Practitioner. While reading and practicing I was the Tinkerbell of my own life, I was the fairy who threw stardust upon her story to get the well deserved happy ending. I was gracious, curious and happy to have my own means of “fixing” myself. The clear processes and procedures that explain how human mind works, and how inner and outer communication open ahead magical realms of self comprehension and realization. They were my most powerful wand to transformation.

That day affair was born. I sealed it with an oath to myself to practice every day what I learned with the intentions to remember and eventually to master it all.

Today, I celebrate 6 years later summing up 2561 days of NLP self practice.

Celebrating 2561 days of NLP self-practice!

When I look back to those days, I picture myself so numb, so clueless but so curious. Like detective Columbo I walked with small steps unfolding one of the greatest mysteries of my world – my own mind.

The journey took me to edges that I could have not even dare to dream before. It connected me to my core, it helped me to discover and accept my inner calling of healer and leader and to take my story out. It still helps me every day to take that to perfection with a self ablaze enthusiasm and motivation. It connected me to my sense of inner truth and righteousness. It got me find a stable equilibrium between my inner world and outer reflection, between mind and heart, between body and soul. It offers me a solid foundation to reach and live a “Citius Altius Fortius” (Faster Higher Stronger) state of being in every second of my life, to be present in each moment, and to enjoy it all together. And above all, it helps me to accompany, guide and witness other people in their journeys to discover themselves, to find their purpose and identity, to adjust their careers course or heal their lives. And each and every of their smiles or epiphanies, it confirms me the righteousness of why and what I am here for.

I am still in love with NLP. Perhaps I am now more passionate that 6 year ago. I uncovered many of its secrets and even more of mines. I fire up this flame every single day with great joy, and it burns me to ashes so I can reborn every day a better version of myself. No pause, no holiday, no exception. This is my addiction, my reason to wake up in the mornings, is me – an important part of who I am. And I am who I am every day. No break from it.

That’s what I call “my passion”. I am curious to know what is yours?

Stay safe.

P.S. Writing this text got me one of the biggest smiles.

Photo credit: Josh Riemer on Unsplash

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